Friday, January 31, 2014

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart.
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.


There comes a moment where yours and mine become ours. You don't recognize it when it happens, you only realize it already has.

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment!

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

{haiku wednesday}

baby breath sighing
sweet smile memories surface
sling walk sway cherish

{please share your own}

Friday, January 24, 2014

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart. 
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.


Not all the moments in life are great. In fact, there are a lot of crappy moments in life. That's why I stay committed to capturing the good ones. Because in spite of the crap, life is still good. Really good. So good, in fact, that you can kick your feet up, munch on an apple and read some Bearinstain Bears after school.

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comments.

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

{haiku wednesday}

coffee typing think
waiting to see if baby
twenty six will come

{please share your own}

Monday, January 20, 2014

Benefits of Postpartum Doulas - Guest Blogger {Epiphany Childbirth Services}

I am pleased to announce my newest Honeybee Mama Sponsor, Calista Firor of Epiphany Childbirth Services. Calista is a dear friend of mine and also the first of my Partner Services.

Among her many childbirth services, Calista offers Postpartum Doula packages that are now available to Honeybee Mama clients. Calista is guest blogging today to share with you about postpartum doulas and why you need one!
Congratulations! You just welcomed the most beautiful baby into the world and you are in heaven – life couldn’t be more perfect. Family and friends have come by to meet your little one and help with little things around the house and your significant other has taken a few days off work to be home with you but now the house is empty and it’s just you and the baby. Although you feel overwhelmed with joy, you also feel overwhelmed with other emotions and the newness of your situation feels daunting. You wonder how you will tend to the baby and focus energy on your other little ones. You wonder how and what you will make for dinner tonight or when you’ll be able to get to the grocery store. You wonder how you’ll know what’s wrong with the baby when he fusses and how to help him calm down. You wonder how you’re going to get the little things around the house done – the laundry, the dishes, etc. You wonder why you’re crying one minute and laughing the next. You wonder just about everything and you are not alone. As long as you aren’t having thoughts about endangering yourself or others, this is completely normal. It is part of the postpartum recovery period and it is part of being a new mom. There are a lot of adjustments going on in and around you right now and you shouldn’t be expected to go at it alone. Fortunately there are women out there, like myself, who can help you navigate the newness of parenthood with ease! I am a postpartum doula and I am here to serve you. Whether you are reading this pre pregnancy, during pregnancy or after the baby is born, it is not too late to get the support you need!

What is a postpartum doula? According to the Childbirth and Postpartum Professional Association (CAPPA), a postpartum doula is a trained professional that offers physical, emotional and spiritual support to a new mother and the rest of the family. In my opinion, a postpartum doula is the best mommy friend a gal could ask for! She is a mentor - one who educates, listens and helps without judgment, one who is in tune to what you are going through, what your family needs and one who can help you feel empowered in your new role!

What are the benefits of having a postpartum doula? Besides the obvious benefit of having an extra set of hands when you need them, having a postpartum doula can contribute to greater success in breastfeeding, higher confidence levels, increased baby care skills, greater sense of bonding with the baby, better coping skills, less postpartum depression and a smoother transition into parenthood.

What exactly can a postpartum doula help with? Although she cannot offer medical advice or perform any medical or clinical procedures, she can do so, so much! Services provided by a postpartum doula may include:

·       breastfeeding support education

·       demonstrating newborn care and feeding techniques

·       helping mom with postpartum comfort and self-care

·       teaching skills such as babywearing, skin to skin, and infant cues

·       planning for and preparing simple meals and/or snacks

·       helping to increase a calm household environment

·       light housekeeping

·       light errands

·       caring for the baby while mom rests

·       assisting with older siblings

·       traffic control (monitoring visitors phone calls if needed)

·       connecting you to various community resources

·       helping you get out of the house for the first time

·       recognizing when something isn’t normal (such as an infection or a postpartum disorder) getting you the help you need.


Likely, one of the most important roles a postpartum doula will play, and one that is very dear to my heart, is that of a listener. Many moms need someone to sit and listen and help them process things such as her birth experience, new feelings, new struggles, new joys, etc. A postpartum doula will listen as much as needed and ask/answer questions to help you work through anything you are dealing with. She will provide informed, practical and objective advice so that you can come to your own conclusions; she will not make any decisions for you. Rather than stepping in and taking over the care of your baby, she will step beside you and help you along the way - you are her top priority.

Who can benefit from hiring a postpartum doula? Anyone. If this is your first baby, it is likely that everything is going to be new to you. If this is your second, third or fourth baby, you may know how to do it all, but may not have the energy or time to do it all in the beginning. If you have multiples, your hands will be full and an extra set of them to help out will be invaluable. Many women feel that if they have family and friends around to help, the use of a postpartum doula is not necessary, but I disagree. Although family and friends always have the best intentions, they sometimes neglect to focus on you and rather put a lot of time and energy in holding and caring for the baby – you need someone to help take care of you!

Postpartum Doula Services around the country range anywhere from $15 to $50 dollars per hour. Currently, my rate is $18-20/hour, depending on how many hours are purchased, with a minimum of 6 hours. To be most effective the minimum amount of time I will spend with your family on any given day is 3 hours. For more information on my specific Postpartum Services & Fees, please visit www.epiphanydoula.com.
For more information about hiring Calista for postpartum support, visit my Partner Services page and contact her for a consultation. 

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Saturday, January 18, 2014

Help Me Help You!

Hi friends! As you can probably tell by the title of this post, I need your help.

Some of you are loyal followers and some of you are new to the tribe. Either way, there's something you should know.

I care about you. I want to help you. I am passionate about what I do and care deeply about my cause, which has a lot to do with you. In fact, you should know that the majority of my time, energy, and effort is spent giving you information, encouragement and empowerment for free. The part of my job that supports my family financially is the smallest portion of my "work." That's how much I care about you and my mission.

Do you know what my mission is? I'll tell you.

I want to show mothers that they don't have to be afraid of childbirth by combating myths with facts, using simple and effective training techniques. I am going to talk about empowering mothers every chance I get because I love it!

I want to be the best at what I do and I want to know that I'm giving YOU what you need to feel confident and satisfied in your pregnancy and childbirth experience. If I can make any kind of positive impact on maternity care in my neighborhood and yours, I will consider myself a success. 

So, I need your help. I have no free gift to offer you, and nothing to promise except for my continued commitment to offer the best, accessible, evidence-based and empowering information available to help YOU achieve YOUR goals in childbirth. If you take the time to help me, that commitment is a promise I can keep. 

Here's how you can help. Please take just a few moments to answer nine tiny questions by clicking the following link: 

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Wednesday, January 15, 2014

{haiku wednesday}

busy girl, one car
excited for change to come
unleashing passion

{please share your own}

Friday, January 10, 2014

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart.
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.


I'm not sure when I'll stop being surprised by the moments when everyone is happy and getting along. I hope I don't. If I'm not surprised, I'll stop noticing and I won't get to enjoy the bliss of those precious moments. Homework, hot chocolate, popcorn and sibling love after school. Lovely!

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment.

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

{haiku wednesday}

finally getting
in the swing of things after
Christmas and sickness

{please share yours}

Monday, January 6, 2014

Successful People and New Year's Resolutions

So, as a rule I tend to not make New Year's Resolutions. You know, all the stuff about not keeping up with them and too much pressure and all that. Basically it all comes down to me not wanting to set myself up for disappointment, especially disappointment with myself. If I don't set goals, I don't have to feel like a failure when I don't reach them. Then by default I'm not a failure!

Last year, for the first time ever, I actually made a resolution to choose happiness. I ended up setting some pretty lofty goals for myself for my first run with resolutions. Though I didn't keep them all to the letter, they definitely helped me to begin creating some really positive habits in my life.

Which brings me to the present blog post which involves successful people. Recently one of friends posted this image on his Facebook page:


I am not sure where this image originated but it's got some pretty interesting thoughts. I began by reading the list under "Successful People," and felt pretty good. I feel I exhibit several behaviors on this list such as the following:
  • Have a sense of gratitude
  • Compliment
  • Forgive others
  • Accept responsibility for their failures (at least I think I do)
  • Want others to succeed
  • Continuously learn 
  • Exude Joy (depending on who you ask I'm sure)
  • Talk about ideas
  • Share information and data
  • Give others credit for their victories
Then I read the list of "Unsuccessful People," and realized I also have characteristics on this list such as:
  • Criticize (um...ouch...this one is hard to be honest about)
  • Say they keep a journal but don't (I used to...)
  • Think they know it all (just ask my husband)
  • Never set goals (it's hard to say never...I have to-do lists and do accomplish things, but I'm not sure I can call them goals)
  • Fly by the seat of their pants
  • Watch TV every day
This was a real eye opener to me. Now, am I completely unsuccessful? Well, no, not completely. I have successfully gone into business for myself and am growing in recognition and clientele, as well as increasing my knowledge and experience on a daily basis. I have been successful at gaining and keeping employment outside of my own business, and I feel I am successful as a parent, a friend and a spouse (despite the admitted occasional criticism and knowing-it-all).

The question is whether or not these poor habits I know I have are holding me back from being wildly more successful than I am. What would happen if I did start keeping a journal again? Would I be more self aware? Maybe that would help me work on issues and weaknesses I have. Maybe I would be less critical and know-it-all-ish. Maybe I would be more grateful and more of the other things on the successful people list. What would happen if I began setting goals for myself and made plans to reach those goals? What if I stopped watching TV? Okay...what if I stopped watching as much TV? Would I read more? Would I accomplish more? Would I be more active and healthy? What if I had more of a set schedule and didn't fly by the seat of my pants? Maybe it's possible for me to eradicate my lifelong habit of being late! Maybe...

I have found with other things, like eating healthy for example, that when I focus on doing more of the good stuff, the bad stuff naturally lessens. So, I think the way to improve is not to focus on NOT doing the bad habits, and instead focus on incorporating more of the good habits. So here are the things I'm going to work on. Call them resolutions if you want; I think I'll call them goals (since apparently I need help in the setting goals department).
  • Read more
  • Watch less TV
  • Keep a journal
  • Set goals and develop life plans (I have big plans for Honeybee Mama in 2014)
And you know what? I'll check back in with you guys in a couple months and let you know how I'm doing on all this.

What about you? Did you make resolutions for 2014? According to the lists above, are you a successful or unsuccessful person? What changes could you make to be more successful in your life and work?

Love and Honey,
Missy

{Inspire Me}

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Friday, January 3, 2014

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart. 
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.


Sweet brothers, sitting practically on top of each other and playing with their tablets.
They may fight like brothers, but they love like brothers too and it blesses my heart.

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment.

Happy Weekend, Lovies!
 

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