Friday, August 30, 2013

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart.
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.


Sara Bareilles. I got to see Sara Bareilles. Not only did I get to see Sara Bareilles in concert, I got to see her at the legendary Cain's Ballroom in Downtown Tulsa. At Cain's everyone has a great view of the stage and you can feel every fiber of the music coursing through the wooden dance floor straight to your soul. Not only did I get to see Sara Bareilles in concert at Cain's, I got to see her with my bestest friend in the whole wide world of friends. She sang our favorite songs, and even let us sing some of them. It was just...perfect. 

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment. 

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Thursday, August 29, 2013

Tulsa's Improving Birth Rally for Change 2013


Maternity care in the U.S. is in crisis. The United States spends $98 Billion on maternity care and has some of the worst outcomes among developed countries. According to Amnesty International, “Women in the USA have a higher risk of dying of pregnancy-related complications than those in 49 other countries, including Kuwait, Bulgaria, and South Korea.”

Need more proof? 
·      Oklahoma's average cesarean rate is 32.4% which is well above the 15% suggested by the World Health Organization.
·      The national c-section average is about 33%, so more than half a million c-sections a year may be preventable.
·      Most women who have cesareans will give birth by a repeat c-section, which adds significant risk for further health complications even though vaginal birth  after cesarean (VBAC) has been proven safe for most of those women.
·      A third of birthing women will have their labor induced or intensified artificially with drugs without a sufficient medical need to do so, which isn’t supported by evidence and is proven to increase complications (including cesarean births).
·      More than half of birthing women are prevented from eating and drinking during labor and are also confined to a bed, which is not based on evidence and is proven to increase risks and complications.
·      Many women feel bullied or that they weren’t given adequate information with which to give informed consent for various procedures and interventions and end up feeling disappointed by their birth experience.
  
Improving Birth seeks to change these statistics and is holding their 2nd annual Rally for Change on Labor Day 2013. I will be at the rally, along with many other childbirth professionals and Tulsa parents. We want to increase awareness for Evidence Based Birth Care and empower women to take ownership over their birth experiences. 

The Improving Birth Rally is not about natural vs. medicated birth or hospital vs. home birth or birth center births. It's about respect for women and their decisions in chidlbirth!



Join with Tulsa families and childbirth professionals on September 2, 2013 at Green Acres Market in Jenks, Oklahoma for the Improving Birth Rally for Change. From 10am-Noon there will be a rally with local speakers and people holding signs to raise awareness for the change we want to see in maternity care.

From Noon-3pm there will be a maternity fair with local birth professionals, healthcare providers and other vendors available for expectant parents to meet and get information about their births. There will even be giveaways, and I will be giving away a birth plan manual!

Join us to make your voice heard and to learn about your choices in childbirth and help us improve birth in Tulsa!

Your Birth Plan - The Manual

There are so many books and so much information out there about childbirth that trying to learn it all can be overwhelming. Yet, it can sometimes feel like doctors and hospital staff do not adequately explain all of the pros and cons of the interventions you may face during your birth. Do you know the choices you have? Do you know the risks interventions may cause to you, your birth and your baby?

I have done the research for you, and I have provided you with concise but detailed information about what each intervention is, what you need to know about it, and what your choices are. The manual also includes sample birth plans and extra resources for you to learn more if you want to!

I am passionate about the importance of birth plans, and feel they are integral to helping you understand everything that may happen in birth and what you can and cannot make choices about. It's an invaluable tool to educate yourself and communicate clearly with your healthcare provider and your family about your wishes for your birth experience.

Your Birth Plan - The Manual is a step-by-step manual to walk you through to process of writing your birth plan. This is far more than a free template you can download online which asks for your decisions about birth without giving you the knowledge and information to make those decisions. Your Birth Plan includes the following sections:

  • Introduction
  • The Importance of a Birth Plan
  • Section 1 - Your Ideal Birth
  • Section 2 - Understanding the Birth Process
  • Section 3 - Constructing Your Birth Plan
  • Section 4 - Preparing for Your Birth
  • Section 5 - Constructing Your Birth Plan - Worksheet
  • Section 6 - Appendix and Resources



CLICK HERE to purchase Your Birth Plan online at my webstore! This manual will be provided to you via email, in PDF form once your purchase is complete. What you will need to complete your manual:
  • 1" 3 ring binder
  • 6 tab dividers 
For more information about preparing for your best birth experience, take a look at Five Steps to a Better Birth.  

Honeybee Mama's First Vlog!

Here goes nothin'! What do you guys think? Should I start video blogging more?

Well, watch my first one and tell me after. Please be nice!


What are you doing today? Can any of you relate?

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

{haiku wednesday}

i'm convinced there's more
good than bad to see if you
look in the right place

{please share your own}

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

I'm a Movie Star!

Okay, I'm not EXACTLY a movie star, but I am a YouTube star. I'm now starring in my very own show on Tulsa's own Tulsa Feed!

I am so excited about my new project. Someone asked me a few years ago what me dream job was. My response was, "I want to be a doula and a childbirth educator and I want to blog about all the fun things I do with my kids." At the time I didn't think for a second my dreams would come true. Not only am I now doing all of those things, I have the opportunity to share my amazingly blessed life with the world in a new and exciting way.

If you love reading my blogs here and at TulsaKids Magazine, you can now join the adventure on the Tulsa Feed YouTube channel. There's only so much I can tell you in words and show you in pictures; now you can see all of our adventures as they take place!

Here's the promo video for Honeybee Mama on Tulsa Feed:


As you saw in the video, you have an opportunity to be a part of the show!

We're sponsored by you, just like all your favorite shows on NPR and PBS (you know, Big Bird and all). Become a fan for just $5, a follower for $45, or kick it up to promote your own business and sponsor at a higher level. 

We are going to have so much fun exploring Tulsa with the kids, and talking about all the things that matter to moms. Sometimes we'll even ditch the kids and the husbands and have "Me Time."

I love my life. It's an adventure and I love sharing it with you, my friends and followers. Come along with me on my latest adventure and bring your friends along! Be sure to find us and "like" us on Facebook, follow us on Twitter and subscribe to our YouTube Channel so you won't miss a beat!

Love and Honey,
Missy

Friday, August 23, 2013

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart. 
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.

I love my job. I am so honored to be a doula and to be invited into the intimate experience of birth for each and every one of my special and unique clients. It is a gift in and of itself to have that privilege; I need no other gifts. Yet, many times my clients give me something extra, something unexpected. My clients who gave birth last Saturday to a beautiful baby boy had a very special experience. It was the closest thing to a homebirth I've ever seen in a hospital. This mom listened to her body and followed her instincts. She labored and birthed in beauty and peace and welcomed her baby with bravery and strength. It was just amazing in every way. As I packed up my things to leave, the mom motioned to the dad to give me something, and this was it. A one of a kind necklace with a honeybee, my first initial and a rose. They didn't even know my middle name is Rose. I am blessed!

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment. 

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Thursday, August 22, 2013

First Day of School!

"It's the day of the show, y'all!" (for you Guffman fans out there)

The backpacks are bought, lunches packed, handsome shirts on, breakfast eaten, paperwork filled out and pictures taken and they're off!

Carter - 7th Grade

Corrinne - 5th Grade

Aidan - 2nd Grade

Alec - 1st Grade



We are so excited for fresh starts and a new year for all four of our kids. This is a new chapter for us in so many ways and we're all on the journey together.

And me? Well, as a work-at-home-mom, I can't help but keep replaying this scene in my head:


Yes, yes, I love my kids and all, but Summer has been long enough. I have mimosas scheduled with my neighbor and I'm on my way out the door to the Y for some ME time! Fist bump to all you parents out there - we made it!

Wednesday, August 21, 2013

What I Really Fantasize About

What I should be doing right now is writing any of the list of several blog post ideas that I have, sewing a couple of sling orders, and tackling the seasonal hand-me-down shuffle for my littles' room. Instead, my head is swimming with fantasies.

No, not THOSE kind of fantasies. My fantasies right now are sparklingly organized and clutter free pantries, closets and backpack racks. I dream of meticulously thought out meal plans and grocery lists and a monthly planner that can organize the activities of two adults, four children, doula clients, childbirth class schedules without making my eyes cross.

I don't have it all figured out yet, but I thought I'd share with you what I'm looking at. Here are a few blogs I'm scouring for ideas, lists, free printables, downloadable organizing lists, meal plan ideas and everything in between.

I Heart Organizing Blog

IHeart Organizing

Simplified Bee

A Thoughtful Place


I'll share with you in the coming weeks the projects I end up tackling. Wish me luck!

Where do you get your inspiration when you need to clean things up and get organized? What projects desperately need to be tackled at your house? I'd love to hear your suggestions and questions!

{haiku wednesday}

last day of Summer
breakfast feast for the kiddos
countdown to freedom

{please share your own}

Friday, August 16, 2013

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart. 
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.

I have the bestest best friend ever. We've been attached at the hip since the tenth grade. We've been through it all and I am so thankful to have my kids call her Aunt Megan. We always imagined getting to raise our children together and do "Mom" stuff together. I just can't tell you how sweet it is for my soul when we get to sew together or do projects, drink wine and dish about life. Life is good and I am thankful!

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment!

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

{haiku wednesday}

8am date, sew,
meet teachers, mom in labor,
YouTube show meeting...

{please share your own}



Tuesday, August 13, 2013

I Give Up

Remember how desperate we were for the end of the school year?

Yeah, well, I had a few weeks of bliss when my kids were with their dad and my stepkids were with their mom and I got SO much work done. I actually FINISHED my birth plan manual, and I've managed to attend a few births, and get things done here and there, but gone are the days of the kids sleeping in and lazing about the house peacefully while they ignore me and let me work.

Now the to-do list in my planner looks like this, complete with chardonnay at 3 in the afternoon.


It hit me one day, firstly because the pain of attempting to work from home while my kids have Turrets-like fits of the "hey mommies" finally trumped the feeling of accomplishment that came with getting things done. Secondly, I remembered a huge reason I'm a work-at-home-mom at all: to be able to spend more time with my kids.

So, I gave up. I gave up on trying to push them away and tell them, "Not now, Mommy's working." I gave up on being frustrated with them asking, "When can we go to the pool?" and "Are we going to do anything FUN today?"

And I went to the movies,


and the splash pad,


and stopped at a lemonade stand on the way to a wedding,


and went to the Zoo,


and rode the train at the Zoo,


and went to Food Truck Wednesday,


and consoled my kid when ants got on his food at Food Truck Wednesday,


and built a super awesome fort,


and played in the fort,


and realized when you stop talking long enough and start listening, you hear how amazing your kids really are,


and I left the fort up and added twinkle lights so the magic could last into the night,


and I went to the pool even though it was overcast and raining,


and I went to the water park,


and played foursquare,


and went to family yoga,


and took the in-laws to the Tulsa Children's Museum,
 

and snagged a pool for 50% off of clearance at Wal-Mart so we could have a backyard beach party,


and I made memories instead of money.

I have had to stay up late or get up early from time to time to answer emails, schedule appointments with clients and keep up with the minimum amount allowable of blogging, but for the most part I've just been doing Summer with my kids. Because they deserve it. Well, maybe they don't deserve it. If I had to work and send them to daycare, I would. I've been there before and that was necessary for us to get by then. But they deserve it because I'm able to give it to them.

Since going my own way and starting my own business I have a choice, and the choice I'm making for the rest of the Summer is this: I can wait. Work can wait. Of course, my clients who are in labor and cannot wait and I must go to them then, but the other stuff can wait. My kids, on the other hand, can't wait. They're growing up before my eyes. Thank goodness I'm addicted to snapping pictures or I'd miss it. I don't think I'll regret the moments I chose to put work aside and play with my kids.

I don't think they will either.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

{my moment}

A moment captured from the week that captured my heart. 
A Friday ritual inspired by Soulemama.

 Pretty much the coolest fort we've ever made. Outside with a blow-up pool filled with blankets and pillows. We got an extension cord and brought out a fan and strung twinkle lights. The boys spent time taking turns talking into the fan and giggling. Sweet childhood. Sweet Summertime.

If you're inspired to do the same, leave a link to your moment in your comment. 

Happy Weekend, Lovies!

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

{haiku wednesday}

yoga in the park
bagels happy kids and forts
in the sun summer

{please share your own}
 

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